How do you make bad feelings go away?

You speak them out of you. And you keep on speaking about them for as long as you feel them. And you decide within yourself, that more than anything else in the world, you want to know why you are feeling bad, even if you think you already know why.

You might be having relationship difficulties, feeling very bad, or you might be sick and so you think you know the reasons why you are feeling so bad – they are obvious, and yes, on the surface level it is obvious, however, there will also be deeper unknown reasons also driving your bad feelings – even causing your relationship difficulties or sickness in the first place.

So you might end the relationship or take pills to stop feeling bad, but that’s not really solving the deeper underlying problems causing you to feel bad. And what if you don’t want your relationship to end, you just want your bad feelings to go away?

The only real way to get rid of your bad feelings is to speak them out of you. To do anything else other than express them will only cause you other problems. But the problem is that you can express them and express them and express them and still they keep coming, seemingly an endless supply of them. And they will, and there is an endless supply, because what will be causing them is still unchanged within you. So this is why you need to uncover and find the truth of the reasons or causes within you that are generating your feelings.

And to find the truth you must want to find it. You must want to find it with all your will, committing yourself to finding it above all else. It’s not a mental idea that sounds good – ah yes, I think I would like to know why I feel bad. It’s a full-scale desire, a deep longing, a strong need in you to find out why you are feeling bad: what really is going on within you making you feel all these bad feelings?

And when you do find the hidden truth; when you do find the reasons causing your feelings, and so heal it, then it will cease generating your feelings, so you will no longer feel them.

But you need to use the feelings to find your way into yourself to uncover the truth. So you need to speak about your feelings to someone who wants to listen to you, someone who is on your side, whilst you seek to uncover the truth of them.

Many people, being very expressive, speak about their feelings, even bad feelings, all day long, but they don’t want to uncover the deeper truth within themselves as to why they keep feeling such feelings. The same things can keep endlessly annoying them, and they believe they know what is upsetting them and making them angry, accepting there is simply nothing they can do about it. However, through my feeling-healing, countless times things that made me feel bad, which I believed would never change, once I had expressed all the bad feelings uncovering the truth of what was really causing them, suddenly stopped making me feel bad, or mysteriously, just stopped happening.

Things will only really change if you uncover the truth.

The Truth Hurts.

As much as you might not like it, the truth that you weren’t loved by your parents as you wanted them to love you, is what you’re going to have to face if you want to heal your childhood repression. I’m afraid there is no avoiding it. And avoiding this truth is what you have been doing all these years, because who wants to feel unloved by their parents – no one!

The truth that none of us were as loved as we wanted and needed to be, no matter how loved we might feel by our parents, is what ails us all. It is the root cause of ALL our problems, and not just problems of the physical kind. No matter what you believe, if something is not right in your life or within you, then the reasons why and the deep underlying causes you will find as you heal your childhood repression.

Most of what we do in the world and how our world is, is based on bad-feeling avoidance, as no one wants to feel bad, and yet we all do. And the more you get in touch with your childhood repression and bad-feeling denial, the worse you will feel. So if you believe healing your childhood repression is going to make you feel better, forget it. Sure it will in the long run, but that’s years down the track, and in the short term and NOW, it’s going to make you feel VERY bad. To go back into and re-experience all those bad feelings you are hiding from yourself is not a feel-good exercise.  Everything about healing your childhood repression will be a bad-feeling exercise, exactly the opposite of how you are conducting your life.

And I am not going to try and gloss over the bad stuff. In fact I want to keep telling you how bad it is, because we have to accept our bad feelings – ALL of them, as it is not until we do that we can fully accept ALL of ourself. To live in denial means you are denying bad feelings, and to heal that denial means you are going to have to find the truth – the reasons why you feel bad. And to uncover this truth means you are going to have to feel ALL the bad feelings you felt when you were little, all the ones you were stopped from expressing. And this includes ALL the bad feelings from conception right through your childhood. And if you don’t believe you can feel a feeling good or bad that you felt at your conception, then do your childhood repression feeling through your bad-feeling acceptance and then see what you believe and feel about it.

The how to heal your childhood repression I am wanting to talk about on this blog and in my books on my web-sites is all to do with bad feeling acceptance, that being the way to access your childhood repression and find the truth of it. And what it begins with is your acceptance that you feel bad. We first have to start to admit to ourselves that we do feel bad – really bad in many cases, and then accept that it is OKAY TO FEEL BAD. You feel bad – it is a part of you, so really there is no point in denying it. But to accept just how bad you do feel, deep down within you, and how many bad feelings you do have locked away inside you, is… well… you’ll see, as you venture into the healing of your childhood repression.